How to Develop Positive Core Beliefs

Masterclass with Insights from Lua Weatherdon, Veronica Vaiti, and Carrie Ann Cleveland.

It’s common for people who’ve experienced narcissistic abuse to lose sight of their core beliefs because of the abuse and manipulation.

Core beliefs are our fundamental beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world around us. 

They impact every aspect of our lives, from self-image to career aspirations to our sense of right and wrong. 

Some common thoughts you might have if you’re experiencing this are:

  • “What if all my beliefs were just illusions or lies?”
  • “I’m questioning everything I once thought was true.”
  • “Maybe the things I held as truths were never really mine.”
  • “I feel like I’ve been living a lie; what was even real?”
  • “All my certainties seem to have crumbled away.”

If you can relate to those thoughts, this masterclass could be for you.

Meet Lua Weatherdon, Veronica Vaiti, and Carrie Ann Cleveland.

Lua is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Therapist from Oregon.

Veronica is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker Therapist from New York.

Carrie Ann is a Marriage & Family Therapist from California.

Today, Lua will guide you through a practice that helps you recognize and soothe your negative core beliefs. 

After that, Veronica will explain the importance of discernment when turning negative core beliefs into positive ones.

Then, to finish the series strong, Carrie Ann will give you five strategies you can use to develop positive core beliefs.

Watch Now (Part 1)

  • Warning: This content discusses narcissism and narcissistic abuse. This subject may be triggering for some people. If you find yourself feeling triggered, please click here to watch our Trigger/Flashback Protocol.

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Lua Weatherdon’s Strategy

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Part 1: Deep Dive Into Your Core Beliefs

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Watch Now (Part 2)

  • Warning: This content discusses narcissism and narcissistic abuse. This subject may be triggering for some people. If you find yourself feeling triggered, please click here to watch our Trigger/Flashback Protocol.

If you struggle to stay focused when consuming long-form content, you’re not alone. We’ve found that listening to our content as you read the transcript is the easiest way to stay focused because the audio will keep you on pace with the text. In addition, when you do this, the information is processed by two different parts of your brain, which can give you a more comprehensive understanding and memory of the material.

Veronica Vaiti’s Strategy

We recommend using If/When-Then Plans to implement Veronica Vaiti’s advice effectively. Please click here to learn more about this research-backed approach.

Part 2: Turning Negative Core Beliefs Into Positive Ones

Resource Alert

To help you practice discernment, we’ve created a writing activity. Give it a try – it’s designed to support your journey.

1.) Identify the Core Belief

Start by writing down the negative core belief you want to explore. They could be about yourself, others, or the world, such as:

  • “I don’t deserve happiness.”
  • “People always leave.”
  • “The world is a terrible place.”

2.) First Encounters

Reflect on when this belief might have first taken root in your life. Write about your earliest memory where this belief felt true. Don’t worry about chronological accuracy; focus on feelings and perceptions.

3.) Influential Relationships

Consider the key figures during the time this belief developed. Who were you interacting with? How did these relationships potentially shape or reinforce this belief? Write about specific interactions, words, or behaviors that might have contributed to forming this belief.

4.) Life Events

Explore significant life events around the time this belief emerged. Did something specific happen (or not happen) that could have led to this belief? It could be a particular incident, a series of events, or even the absence of expected events.

5.) Cultural and Social Influences

Think about your life’s broader social and cultural context when this belief was forming. Were there societal norms, cultural expectations, or family values that might have influenced this belief?

6.) Patterns Over Time

Reflect on how this belief has been reinforced over the years. Are there recurring themes, situations, or types of relationships that have kept this belief alive?

7.) Contrast with Current Understanding

How does this belief stand in contrast to your current understanding of yourself and the world? Write about how your perception and knowledge have evolved since then.

8.) Reflecting and Utilizing Insights

As you conclude this writing session, take a moment to reflect on the insights and patterns that have emerged. 

Look for common threads or recurring themes in your narrative. 

These could be specific types of interactions, feelings, people, or events that seem to be connected to the development of your core belief. 

Consider how these elements might have combined to form the foundation of this belief.

Ask yourself questions like:

  • Are there specific relationships or events that stand out?
  • How did these experiences shape my perception of myself or the world?
  • Is there a pattern in the way I interpreted these events?

Use these insights to identify the origin of your negative core belief. 

Remember, this belief likely formed as a way to make sense of complex experiences. 

Understanding its origin is not about assigning blame but about gaining clarity on how your past has shaped your present.

With this clarity, you can begin to see this belief as a product of specific circumstances rather than an absolute truth about yourself. 

This understanding is a crucial step in challenging and eventually transforming this core belief into something more balanced and reflective of your current understanding and values.


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Watch Now (Part 3)

  • Warning: This content discusses narcissism and narcissistic abuse. This subject may be triggering for some people. If you find yourself feeling triggered, please click here to watch our Trigger/Flashback Protocol.

If you struggle to stay focused when consuming long-form content, you’re not alone. We’ve found that listening to our content as you read the transcript is the easiest way to stay focused because the audio will keep you on pace with the text. In addition, when you do this, the information is processed by two different parts of your brain, which can give you a more comprehensive understanding and memory of the material.

Carrie Ann Cleveland’s Strategies

We recommend using If/When-Then Plans to implement Carrie Ann Cleveland’s advice effectively. Please click here to learn more about this research-backed approach.

First Strategy: EMDR

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Second Strategy: I Know My Truth

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Third Strategy: Mindfulness & Gratitude

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Fourth Strategy: Five Step Process

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Fifth Strategy: Narrative Therapy

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Closing Remarks

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