How to Overcome Helplessness

Masterclass with Insights from Cindy Guerrero (Clinical Social Work/Therapist, Shaman, RMT, RYT 200)

It’s common to experience helplessness after narcissistic abuse.

Helplessness refers to a state or feeling where a person perceives that they have no control over their situation.

Some common thoughts you might have if you’re experiencing this are:

  • “I have no control over what happens to me in this relationship.”
  • “It’s useless to try anything; it won’t change the situation.”
  • “I can’t make any decisions without their approval.”
  • “There’s nothing I can do to make things better for myself.”
  • “I’m completely at the mercy of their moods and actions.”

If you can relate to those thoughts, this masterclass could be for you.

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  • Warning: This content discusses narcissism and narcissistic abuse. This subject may be triggering for some people. If you find yourself feeling triggered, please click here to watch our Trigger/Flashback Protocol.

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Cindy Guerrero’s Strategies

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First Strategy: Validate Your Feelings

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We strongly recommend you visit [0:19] and rewatch Cindy Guerrero’s advice to get the information you need to implement this strategy effectively.

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Second Strategy: “What Is This Showing Me About Me?”

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Third Strategy: Setting Boundaries

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Deeper Dive

Cindy Guerrero highlighted the importance of setting boundaries while explaining this strategy. Here’s a course that will help you do this.

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Fourth Strategy: How Are You Holding Onto the Person, Relationship, or the Situation? 

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Fifth Strategy: Who Are You? What Do You Like? What Lights You Up? 

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We strongly recommend you visit [25:10] and rewatch Cindy Guerrero’s advice to get the information you need to implement this strategy effectively. 

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Closing Remarks

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