How to Rebuild Self-Trust

Masterclass with Insights from Ellen J. Biros (Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MS, LCSW, C-PD)

It’s common to lose trust in yourself after narcissistic abuse.

This means doubting your own abilities, decisions, feelings, etc.

It’s like having a little voice inside your head that constantly questions your actions and choices. 

Here are some common signs that indicate you don’t trust yourself:

  • You seek reassurance and advice from others instead of tuning in to how you feel about a situation.
  • You solicit opinions from others around you when an important decision must be made.
  • You postpone making decisions and procrastinate as you find it easier to sit with uncertainty than the fear that you made the wrong decision.
  • You avoid tuning in to your needs and desires and disconnect instead.
  • You overestimate the perspective of others and undervalue your own thoughts and instincts.
  • You experience excessive guilt after making a decision and always fear that you’ve made the wrong choice.
  • You ruminate on what could have been if you had taken another path.
  • You compare your choices to others’ decisions.
  • You don’t believe you’ve made a good decision unless you receive external validation.
  • You are quick to believe negative opinions of yourself.
  • You underestimate the power of your choices.
  • You don’t recognize and believe in your own innate value and worth.

If you can relate to those signs, this masterclass could be for you.

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  • Warning: This content discusses narcissism and narcissistic abuse. This subject may be triggering for some people. If you find yourself feeling triggered, please click here to watch our Trigger/Flashback Protocol.

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Ellen J. Biros’ Strategies

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First Strategy: Understand What Happened to You

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Deeper Dive

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Second Strategy: Learn What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like

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Third Strategy: Work on Developing a Healthy Sense of Self-Identity

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Fourth Strategy: Learn Self-Validation

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Deeper Dive

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Fifth Strategy: Set Boundaries

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Deeper dive

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